Launching Your Daughter

Launching Your Daughter podcast was created to support parents and caregivers in empowering their tween and teen girls as they prepare for young adulthood. Guests will be interviewed to discuss topics such as anxiety, perfectionism, depression, trauma, relationship struggles, budgeting time and money, nutrition and self-care. Conversations about mindfulness, self compassion, mind, body and spirit connections, holistic and alternative approaches used in psychotherapy and counseling will also be explored. As the host of Launching Your Daughter, my name is Nicole Burgess and I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist, transpersonal psychotherapist, parent educator and adolescent mentor. For more information go to the website at
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Jul 26, 2016

Today’s guest is Marni Goldberg a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor in La Jolla, California. Marni works with college bound teens and their parents in mindfulness skill building to help them manage the transition. In today’s episode she shares her own personal experience in managing anxiety when she was younger to learning new skills when at college. In this episode you will learn: *Marni’s personal experience of working with anxiety when younger

*Can be difficult transition from high school to college

*Marni began to create programs to teach life skills to ease transition

*Teenager may have excelled in high school, but have others in college that also excel and perfectionism can set in

*Pressures on having high achievements vs knowing internal strengths and being enough

*Coping skills that are taught:

*Self-monitoring-how you feel, what are your thoughts *Body awareness-do you need more sleep

*Time management

*Physical exercise

*Relaxation techniques

*Getting involved in social events and social support

*Raising awareness helps in being more proactive in getting support vs waiting until anxiety or depression symptoms feel overwhelming

*Mindfulness can help manage insecurities and “need to know now” thoughts from perceived external drivers

*Parents have loving intentions in supporting teens in high school and may not realize doing too much for teen doesn’t teach decision making skills

*Role play with your teen regarding getting on public transportation or doing an activity for first time on their own

*Exploring your teenagers fears

*Create a plan together

*Marni shares own stories with her clients regarding having to write her first check and being able to laugh at herself with self-compassion

*Explore potential risky situations and what to do

*Marni works mostly with families or young adults who are ready to make a change in their life

*Psycho-education for parents regarding creating safe container for their teen and confidentiality of a session

*Important to have parents involved and help improve relationships between parents and teen

*Relaxation techniques

*Gratitude journaling

*Progressive relaxation and guided meditation

*Writing down teens strengths


*Get out into nature

*Play/have some fun

*Does a strength assessment at beginning of therapeutic process

*Reminds teens it is ok to stay connected with high schools and build new relationships at college

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Marni’s Information:

Jul 19, 2016

Welcome! Today’s guest is Anne Halleck, licensed mental health counselor and certified yoga teacher here in Indianapolis. She works with women and teen girls providing trauma informed group yoga.

In this episode you will learn:

  • Yoga has eight different stages
  • Yoga is not only exercise, but increasing mindfulness and awareness Anne provides Trauma Informed Yoga groups for women/teen girls
  • Eight weeks long
  • Closed groups
  • Psycho-education on what is trauma
  • Some talk therapy
  • Each week introduce new mindfulness practice (some yoga and more breathing techniques/meditation)
  • Gain new skills to help calm the body and mind 
  • Can process emotions during group and be held in supportive way in moving through intense or strong emotions 
  • Anne had been doing group work separately and her yoga practice separately, then brought both modalities together for trauma work 
  • Bringing awareness to the body can help reduce the stress levels and stop avoiding sensations that can seem scary
  • Benefits of trauma informed yoga:
    • Gain awareness of emotional and physical self 
    • Stop the avoidance of feeling the emotions 
    • Decrease avoidance of autoimmune issues, chronic pain or eating issues 
    • Build confidence 
    • Talking and practicing the skills 
    • Increase distress tolerance and self-soothing
    • Increase awareness of your self-talk
    • Be more in the moment, present
    • Help getting unstuck out of freeze mode
  • Yoga is for every body type 
  • Yoga is a mindfulness practice not necessarily a religious practice 
  • Gain confidence in giving yourself permission to be vulnerable in a group and decrease minimizing or comparing what you have experienced.
  • Trauma can be:
    • Major losses
    • Emotional trauma
    • Abusive relationships
    • Neglect
    • Natural disasters
  • Symptoms can include: 
    • High anxiety 
    • Flashbacks of event 
    • Re-experiencing trauma
    • Being on edge 
    • Avoiding things that remind you of the trauma
  • Some statistics for women: 
    • 1 out of 4 women is sexually assaulted in their lifetime (CDC states 1 out of 2 women experience sexual violence victimization) *
    • Of the 1 out of 4, 70 percent have a trauma prior to 18 years old *
    • Many sexual assaults happen by someone the family knows or acquaintance
  • It is possible to get unstuck and regain your confidence

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Anne’s Information: @AnneHalleckCounseling on FaceBook

Book Recommendations:

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D. Overcoming Trauma through Yoga:Reclaiming your body by David Emerson and Elizabeth Hopper, PH.D.

Other websites:

Jul 12, 2016

Welcome! Today’s guest is Dr. Nazanin Moali, clinical psychologist in California specializing in treatment of eating disorders and addictions. She has a private practice in LA area for teens and families and is a consultant for a residential facility. Nazanin is a wealth of information regarding warning signs, the spectrum of eating disorders and the type of treatments available if your daughter is struggling with these issues. Now here is todays episode.

In this episode you will learn:

  • Focus on behaviors vs what adolescent says due to possible denial of an issue
  • Teen may state as “I want to eat healthier”
  • Warning Signs of potential eating disorder:
  • Teenager getting and reading diet books
  • Changes in eating behaviors (out of blue become vegetarian)
  • Going to restroom during or after meal possible purging behaviors
  • Spectrum from healthy eating and self-image to unhealthy eating behavior and self-image
  • Unhealthy eating behaviors:
    • Losing significant amount of weight in short amount of time
      • Can cause long term negative medical issues
      • Possible Anorexia
    • Engaging in restriction of not eating food and doing purging behavior
      • Can be the form of over-exercising
    • Using laxatives
    • Self-induced vomiting (can be learned from peers and social media)
      • Parents become more aware of possible videos daughters are watching that show them how to purge
    • Binge eating disorder-eat more than one person would typically eat. Overeating than shame triggered after behavior
    • Avoidant Food Restrictive disorder-“picky eaters”
  • Treatment options:
    • Speak with your partner and daughter about possible issues, then go to pediatrician who work with eating disorder
    • If medically stable can do outpatient therapy using family based therapy so whole family is involved
    • Residential treatment maybe recommended if not getting results from outpatient or pediatrician refers due to medically not stable, like low heart rate or low blood pressure
  • Eating disorder are a combination of genetics, environment, school system environment, peers and more
  • Teen in denial and need parent to take change to get help Anorexia can impact cognition and view of their world or perceptions
  • Differentiate your daughter from eating disorder Maybe a perfectionist or star at school and this image can get in way of seeing issues
  • Research shows 50% of women on diet.
  • Body shaming in media can trigger shame
  • Creating resilience and prevention:
    • Look at parts you like, what you are grateful for to shift mindset as a family
    • Have regular family meals-not only connecting but role modeling healthy foods

If you liked this episode I invite you to subscribe on iTunes to receive the weekly updates. This podcast is also available on Stitcher and Google Play.

Nazanin’s Information:

Book Recommendations: Helping Your Teenager Beat an Eating Disorder by James Lock, MD, PhD & Daniel Le Grange, PhD.

Jul 5, 2016

Welcome! My guest today is Rebecca Wong LCSW. Rebecca is a relationship therapist and professional consultant in private practice in New York's Hudson Valley where she lives with her husband, two children, and a few four legged mischief makers. She is the creator of Connectfulness, a relationship practice that she uses to help her clients and colleagues understand, manage, and value their own humanity as a tool to connect to themselves and all of the important people in their lives. She believes that our relationships are reflections of who we really are and every interaction is an opportunity for evolution. Every day she embraces life as a beautiful, messy, serendipitous adventure! 

In this episode you will learn:

  • Rebecca works with parenting couples
  • Why connectedness is important
  • Play is relationship “glue”
  • Happy relationships take practice
  • Everyone wants to feel seen, heard and understood
  • What is play and how to embody it In the context of a safe environment and relationship
  • Connection with self improves connections with partners
  • Different archetypes of play
  • Creating and allowing mindful moments
  • We also need disconnection moments Using equine assisted psychotherapy with couples
  • Horses reflect patterns in couples
  • Horses are asking a question when they approach a person and we try to figure out the question. (Same with human to human)
  • Duality of using horses-they can intimidate us and can help us stand in our own truth
  • Rebecca is beginning to to train her puppy in animal assisted therapy. She observes her dog’s behavior and reflects it back to the couple to explore possible patterns in their relationship.
  • Animals can help humans be in present moment
  • Need more kindness and it starts with ourselves
  • Accepting our imperfections
  • Slow down, tune in, and then can show up (self-compassion and self-care)
  • Rebecca discusses Kim John Payne’s work-Simplicity Parenting
  • If you liked this episode I invite you to subscribe on iTunes to receive the weekly updates. This podcast is also available on Stitcher and Google Play.

Rebecca’s Information:

21 Days Series-Collaborative email series with Rebecca, a meditation teacher and financial planner on your money stories

Book Recommendations:

Playful Parenting by Larry Cohen, Ph.D.

Parenting from the Inside Out by Dr. Daniel Siegel

Play by Dr. Stewart Brown