Launching Your Daughter

Launching Your Daughter podcast was created to support parents and caregivers in empowering their tween and teen girls as they prepare for young adulthood. Guests will be interviewed to discuss topics such as anxiety, perfectionism, depression, trauma, relationship struggles, budgeting time and money, nutrition and self-care. Conversations about mindfulness, self compassion, mind, body and spirit connections, holistic and alternative approaches used in psychotherapy and counseling will also be explored. As the host of Launching Your Daughter, my name is Nicole Burgess and I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist, transpersonal psychotherapist, parent educator and adolescent mentor. For more information go to the website at
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Sep 27, 2016

Today’s guest is Jill Castle, registered dietitian nutritionist, author, podcaster, speaker and mother of four teenagers. Jill works with families with babies up to young adults. She encourages parents to support and guide their teenagers in learning the life skill of cooking. Teen girls need this life skill to understand how nutrition impacts their learning, memory and moods and also gain confidence in sustaining themselves once they move out of the family home. Now here is todays episode.

In this episode you will learn:

  • A statistic states only 26% of today’s parents know how to cook
  • Let teens experiment in the kitchen
    • they will burn food
    • they will create weird combinations
    • they will learn
    • and gain confidence
  • Typically begin this skill by cooking or baking sweets
  • Natural progression in learning skill
    • Baking-is a science and you follow recipes
    • Cooking-more flexible and more room for mistakes
    • Assembly of food-create salads, make own dressings, put together sandwiches
  • Parents need to be supportive and there for their teenager daughter if they need guidance
  • Keep communication open
  • Maybe on weekends let teen be part of meal planning or preparing
  • Girls may become concerned about gaining weight during this phase of life
  • There is a healthy balance for each person and it is different for each person
  • Need five cups of fruits/vegetables daily Structure eating vs skipping meals
  • When teens skip meals they get hungrier later in day and can overeat
  • Can reduce learning and retention when hungry
  • Review where alcohol and sweets fit into diet, i.e. alcohol is a calorie source and diminishes the barrier to excess eating when under the influence

What you can do

  • Simple food plans are okay
  • Brainstorm families favorite meals
  • Create meal calendar
  • Have fun with cooking


Meal make over mom’s-

Their podcast is called Cooking with the Moms

Watch cooking shows or look at cookbooks for inspiration and ideas

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Jill’s Information:


Podcast: The Nourished Child

Sep 20, 2016

Today’s guest is Maya Benattar, licensed creative art therapist and board certified music therapist in New York city and Manhattan, NY. Maya talks about her work with women and how singing, music and mindfulness can calm worries and fears. We know music is important to most teenagers and can be a great way for parents to connect with them. Music can help us transcend from the stuckness to a place of feeling seen and connected.

In this episode you will learn:

  • Maya works primarily with women who struggle with anxiety “
  • Triumph over anxiety to understand it and move through it.”
  • Getting women out of their heads and “noticing” where their anxiety is and interrupting that cycle
  • Disconnect between mind and body and relearning that connection through sound, sitting in uncomfortable for little bit and through creative ways

Techniques Used:

  • Vocal psychotherapy-using voice, singing exercises
  • Do not need to be a singer or have vocal training
  • Use mindfulness around music that is meaningful to them Where do you feel it
  • Connect to memories or associations Don’t necessarily need relaxing or soothing music to reduce anxiety
  • “Leaning into the music that works for you.”
  • Shares personal story of how music helped calm her
  • Changing societal views regarding what types of music can sooth and relax

In Between Sessions

  • If tapped into joyful/playful place-how can you access this before next session Brainstorm how person can continue this
  • Uses index cards to record goals, words or phrases that was meaningful during session
  • Helps with maintaining calm connected place between mind and body


  • Women more interested in creative approach
  • Fear around being musical or old wounds regarding failed piano lessons or can’t sing More about how it feels vs sounds
  • Safe environment and with person who is grounded and calm
  • Usually music already resonates with client


  • Parents pause and listen to a sound track with your teenager can give you insight into them Listening to music can increase relationship connection
  • Be present with your teen (not on phone or other devices)-helps validate who they are
  • Gain greater range of self-expression
  • Sit with and be with uncomfortable feeling-shares Brene Brown’s work of working with both joy and uncomfortable
  • Give yourself permission to feel what you feel where you are and move through it vs avoid it.
  • Nicole said, “Giving ourselves some grace to feel all the different emotions and move through it.”
  • Use of metaphors-being curious about anxiety
  • Exploring your story so the old story doesn’t have power over us.

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Maya’s Information:


Free guided relaxation audio track:



Book Recommendations: Brene Brown-Gift of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, Rising Strong

InSight Timer App-has meditations

Create a playlist of music for sleeping, work, when anxious or sad

Sep 13, 2016

Today’s guest is Amy Pender owner of SRI Investing. Amy’s passion for breaking down economic barriers for women and girls shines through this conversation. She encourages parents to make money a non-taboo topic. I remember my parents talking about saving, investing and being money conscious growing up, which has helped me as an adult. I hope this episodes encourages you to have more dialog about money with your daughter.

In this episode you will learn:

  • SRI Investing is a team of financial advisors and they specialize in helping people invest in companies whose processes and products are not harming people or the planet
  • Old myth- if you invest this way you give up return but 20 years research shows otherwise


Pink Tax: 42% of the time products marketed to women cost more than those marketed to men and boys

Tampon Tax: Feminine hygiene products-no male equivalent-are treated as “luxury tax” in most states

Earners or Gender Pay Gap-

  • Woman earn $.79 for every $1.00 of what man earns-regardless of education or occupation.
  • Takes three extra months to earn same as man in one year
  • Mothers typically earn $.73 for every $1.00 of men (or $.06 less, which means extra 5 months of work to earn same amount.)
  • 40% of U.S. household with children have mother who is sole or primary earner.
  • Research shows once men become fathers they see a 6% increase in earnings and women see 4% decrease per child
  • Closing this gap has slowed and at current rate will take over 100 years to close.

Good statistics:

Companies who have three or more women on board of directors the statistics show do:

84% better in return on sales

60% better return on capital and 4

6% better return on equity

What can you do to educate you daughter?

  • Talk about how money works
  • Parents openly discuss differences regarding spending/saving and finding ways to compromise
  • Share belief systems-what were you taught as a child about money
  • Teaching budgeting and money management skills
  • Teach about credit and what it means
  • American Association University of Women (AAUW) teaches negotiating skills to women/girls
  • Empower our next generation to change the salary gap Salary does not equal your self-worth
  • Advocate on behalf of daughters through legislation
  • Educate son’s on not penalizing females

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Amy’s Information: (There are two i’s) (Best way to get a hold of her is through email)

Website and Book Recommendations: They have negotiating salary workshops

Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead by Sheryl Sandberg

Meet with a financial advisor. SRI investing does coaching with families and couples.

Sep 6, 2016

Today’s guest is Stacey Horn who is a personal development coach specializing in relationships, and a clinical hypnotist in Colorado. In this episode she discusses the power of introverts and how the different temperaments can affect relationships between parents and their teen daughters. In this episode you will learn:

  • Stacey shares her personal experience of her relationship with her mom as a teen and how she is changing that with her daughter
  • Ray W Lincoln’s book “I’m a Keeper” was recommended to her years ago and she has incorporated his teachings into her professional work
  • She uses Temperament Sorters by Ray W Lincoln and focuses on strengths
  • How do you restore your batteries?
    • Staying in or going out with others
    • Takes introverts longer to process and respond *How do you take in information of the world?
  • Use of five senses is “S”
  • Or through sixth sense is “N” *How do you make decisions?
  • Thoughts and analysis is “T”
  • Or how do I feel or how others may feel is “F”
    • Hear differences in peoples use of language “I think” or “I feel” *Lifestyle preferences
  • “J”-make decision and move on; Clear sense of time
  • “P”-like to keep options open or until all information is in; Different awareness of time
  • Every client completes a temperament key 
  • This helps tailor hypnosis treatment
  • Four temperament categories
    • SP-someone in the moment
    • SJ-sensory and driven; and motivated by responsibility
    • NT-analytical and intuitive; techies; show little emotion but feel it deeply
    • NF-intuitive and feeling; healers, counselors, nurses; more of 6th sense-a knowing vs clearly defined
  • Stacey is a NF (saw lot of gray area) and her mom was SJ (saw things as black/white)-struggled during teen years
  • Wants to help stop the disconnect between mothers and daughters
  • Benefits
  • Short term work
  • Work with individuals then may share results between mother and daughter in how to bridge differences
  • Can refer clients to books to gather more information
  • Shares personal example of her getting involved with substances as teen due to being highly sensitive. She sees similar substance use with her adult clients “using substances to self medicate that sensitivity.”Having this knowledge may help teens prevent them from going through this.

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Stacey’s Information:

Does temperament and hypnosis work

Book Recommendations: Innerkinetics by Ray W Lincoln- for parents

I’m a Keeper

I’m Still a Keeper